The magnetic pull of your judgments

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1. The magnetic pull of your judgments

"A human being is part of a whole, called by us the Universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separated from the rest. A kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
--Albert Einstein

Have you ever sat and wondered why some of your most important relationships can be so contentious? If so, you might want to consider how being judgmental can easily lead to serious breakdowns with others.

When engaged in challenging relationships, the more you're able to refrain from finding fault with and distancing yourself from others, the more likely you are to live an emotionally fulfilling life. Not always an easy task, but one that's well worth pursuing. Once you realize your own model of the world is flawed and riddled with numerous contradictions, you'll be much better able to forgive the shortcomings of others.

If you encounter certain kinds of problematic relationships over and over again, you'll do well to consider how you attract certain people to you, like a magnet attracts metal filings. You can begin to appreciate the strength of your magnet, by simply noticing who you attract and who you repel. The power of your judgments (even when not spoken out loud) can really be awesome!

When you're able to dissolve the judgment or opposition you have towards others, you'll usually find you spontaneously heighten your ability to engage in mutually fulfilling relationships. When you accept that to some extent you and your counterpart are BOTH right and wrong, you free yourself to learn and adapt, rather than dissipating your energy "fighting against". When you free yourself from finding fault and fighting, you're much better able to defend yourself and get what you rightfully deserve. This is a basic principle of Aikido.

When you place your focus on maintaining a cooperative relationship rather than attempting to determine who is "the most correct", you wind up becoming more solution oriented, and the challenging relationships in your life take on new meaning. When the meaning you attach to what transpires between you and others changes, so will your emotional state. When you're at peace with the world you slow down the pace and rhythm of your speech and actions, and breathe more freely and easily. When you do this you'll find the world is more at peace with you, and the people you interact with will feel accepted and respected, and respond in kind.

Life is not out to attack, punish, or take advantage of you. Life is out to supportively teach you what you need to learn, in order to fulfill your purpose for living. The same I believe is true with the vast majority of people you meet.

At times, some part of your self will call out imploring you to slow down and be more receptive to how you're attracting the people and experiences you don't want. This is much the same as a baby crying out because it's hungry. Rather than finding fault with the crying voice, please find a way to nourish yourself with loving compassion.

In the end, each person wants to feel loved, accepted and protected. Find a way to give others the gift you yourself so dearly desire, and you'll transform your relationships, and gain the sense of being truly appreciated by others.

2. Upcoming Seishindo Workshops

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When?	Where?	Workshop/Event & Presenter(s)
November 18, 2006 13:00-17:00	Tokyo, Japan	Seishindo Somatic Coaching Workshop
January 18, 2007 19:30 - 23:00	Antwerpen, Belgium	Introducing Seishindo - The role your body plays in helping you to maintain your health and emotional well-being Charlie Badenhop, Originator of Seishindo Info in Dutch
January 20, 2007, 9:30 - 17:30	Antwerpen, Belgium	Finding Inner Peace - Exploring the body language of migraine headaches and chronic pain Charlie Badenhop, Marleen Adriaensen Info in Dutch
January 26-27-28, 2007 9:30-17:30	Antwerpen, Belgium	EMBODIED WISDOM - The Dance of Intellect, Intuition, and Emotion Judith DeLozier, Co-Founder of NLP Charlie Badenhop, Originator of Seishindo Info in Dutch in French
February 6, 2007 19.00-21.00	Merrifield, VA	Aikido - A martial art of life Charlie Badenhop
February 9-10-11, 2007 9:30-17:30	Washington, DC, USA	EMBODIED PRESENCE - Use "Everyday Aikido" to resolve conflict and build relationships Charlie Badenhop and Dorothy Pietracatella
Every third Saturday of the month 14:00–17:00	Antwerpen, Belgium	Seishindo Study Group in Belgium Marleen Adriaensen Info in Dutch in French

3. In-person and phone sessions with Charlie

If you appreciate what I share with you in my newsletter, chances are you'll find value in working with me privately.

Would you like to experience a greater sense of well-being and fulfillment in your life, but have yet to find a method that works for you?

Have you discovered that simply talking about your challenges is not enough to change the deep seated emotions that drive your behavior?

Seishindo is unique, because it draws on the mind-body principles of Aikido, Sei tai, NLP, bodywork, and somatic psychology.

With Seishindo private sessions you can learn to meld the wisdom of your intellect with the wisdom of your body, so that what you think and feel matches your true heart's desire.

• Explore core issues, such as your current identity, health, or destructive habit patterns,
• Feel more fully alive and emotionally balanced,
• Explore the direction of your professional or personal life.

  Phone sessions are available year round, for people living most anywhere in the world.

If you'd like to consider working with me privately, you can email me. Once we're in contact we can set up a time for a complementary phone conversation where you can get a better feel for who I am and how you can benefit from working with me. And no worries, I will not try and talk you into a session! You will know what is best for you.

I look forward to hearing from you!
charlie@seishindo.org

I'll be available in Antwerpen, Belgium on January 22, 23, 24 2007, and in Washington, DC on February 13, 14, 15.

Tokyo, Japan:
In person sessions are available year round, for those living in or visiting Japan.

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If you think you might be interested in a private session, please contact Charlie directly at charlie@seishindo.org.